Masculinity

How to use the “OSS” in your life and What in the World does it Mean?

If you frequent any mixed martial arts forums, blogs, or social media platforms and see someone use the term “OSS” you may scratch your head and ask yourself, “what does that mean?” When looking at the meaning of “OSS” or “OSU”, it’s important to understand that the term has several uses ranging from a greeting to answering a question and acknowledging an opponent’s skill among other things. OSS it’s a pretty generic term derived from Japanese martial arts. It is…

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DAVID AND GOLIATH – defeat the giants in your life

Everyone knows the Biblical story of David and Goliath – little guy beats the big bad bully. The funny thing is we usually get this story backwards. It was David that had all the advantages in this battle, not Goliath. The real lesson of David versus Goliath is how a perceived advantage can actually turn out to be a disadvantage in practice. This kind of situation crops up in life and in business much more often than you might realize.…

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Do you suffer from Alexander the Great SYNDROME?

Why did Alexander the Great Weep? In my research this morning… I’ve been thinking about the standard answer to why he wept… because “There were no more worlds to conquer.” I’ve called this “Alexander the Great Syndrome.” Its the idea of the sorrow an over achiever feels when they believe they’re at the very pinnacle of their career and begin to lose a driving purpose in life. Upon further study, I think the real reason he wept was exactly the…

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How to DESTROY a First Date in 10 Moves or Less

                      “Dating is difficult…” Is a limiting belief that will create a story line leading to failure. Dating can be difficult… We get that. However, If you’re going to put yourself out there, you’ve got to develop the empowering story that you’re inevitably going to make a few mistakes… the other person will too… so you must change your focus from trying to impress or be overtly interesting to being…

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Happy 76th Birthday Dad!

 Happy 76th Birthday Dad!– May 03, 2018 It’s been 7 years and almost 6 months since my father died. It’s crazy how quickly time passes us by. I reflect on my father’s life and on the lessons he taught me; probably daily. I often think about things we talked about or things we disagreed about. Sometimes I wished, especially when I was a teen, that he was a different man with different ways. Now however, as I grow older I…

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Good Men and Martial Arts

Good Men and Martial Arts – How to Get in Touch with Your Inner Warrior As a Psychologist, Theologian and Life & Business Coach for over 25 years, I’ve emphasized that the warrior spirit is “hard wired” for men. Our hunter-gatherer ancestors were warriors. As warriors they were required to defend themselves to survive. They had to defend their family and tribe. This was MUST in order to even just Survive. While most of us in the Western world no…

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