Family

Why Relationships Fail – Here are Some Whys

So Why Exactly Do Relationships Fail?   The issue of failed relationships and why they fail is one that has been receiving lots of attention for a long time now. This is so because quite a number of new factors have emerged to threaten the peace and stability of relationships. There are several important factors that determine the stability of every relationship. When these factors are neglected, it becomes easy for things to go very wrong between couples. No relationship…

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THANKSGIVING… 6 Hows to Get a REAL Attitude of Gratitude

THANKSGIVING… 6 Hows to Get a REAL Attitude of Gratitude Most people would agree that we have a lot to be thankful for. After all, many of us live a lifestyle full of conveniences… We live in comfortable homes, wear nice clothes, and have reliable transportation. We have no shortage of clean water or healthy food. We have access to quality healthcare and education, and basically live a good life with a lot of freedom, safety and security. While it’s…

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DAVID AND GOLIATH – defeat the giants in your life

Everyone knows the Biblical story of David and Goliath – little guy beats the big bad bully. The funny thing is we usually get this story backwards. It was David that had all the advantages in this battle, not Goliath. The real lesson of David versus Goliath is how a perceived advantage can actually turn out to be a disadvantage in practice. This kind of situation crops up in life and in business much more often than you might realize.…

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It’s NOT all about the MONEY – Success without Fulfillment is Failure!

What does success look like to you? Take a moment to think about it. Where are you? Who are you with? What are you doing? For a lot of people, the image of success involves a person in a business suit, sitting on a huge yacht with a suitcase of money and a big fat smile on their face. Generally speaking, this false idea of success that we have created in our society is one that involves money, power, fame……

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Do you suffer from Alexander the Great SYNDROME?

Why did Alexander the Great Weep? In my research this morning… I’ve been thinking about the standard answer to why he wept… because “There were no more worlds to conquer.” I’ve called this “Alexander the Great Syndrome.” Its the idea of the sorrow an over achiever feels when they believe they’re at the very pinnacle of their career and begin to lose a driving purpose in life. Upon further study, I think the real reason he wept was exactly the…

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Memorial Day: How to Create a “Hopeful Memory”

(Joshua 4:1-9; 1 Cor. 11:23-26) In the later years of his life, the great 19th century American philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson suffered from an increasingly faulty memory. When things would slip his mind, he complained of his “naughty memory,” as he called it. Sometimes Emerson would forget the names of different objects. In order to speak of them, he would refer to them in a round-about way. For instance, when he could not think of the word “plow,” he would…

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Happy 76th Birthday Dad!

 Happy 76th Birthday Dad!– May 03, 2018 It’s been 7 years and almost 6 months since my father died. It’s crazy how quickly time passes us by. I reflect on my father’s life and on the lessons he taught me; probably daily. I often think about things we talked about or things we disagreed about. Sometimes I wished, especially when I was a teen, that he was a different man with different ways. Now however, as I grow older I…

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Good Men and Martial Arts

Good Men and Martial Arts – How to Get in Touch with Your Inner Warrior As a Psychologist, Theologian and Life & Business Coach for over 25 years, I’ve emphasized that the warrior spirit is “hard wired” for men. Our hunter-gatherer ancestors were warriors. As warriors they were required to defend themselves to survive. They had to defend their family and tribe. This was MUST in order to even just Survive. While most of us in the Western world no…

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7 Ways to Experience the Often-Elusive Joy of Christmas

There’s a lot of pressure this time of year…. Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or some other holiday, this can be a really challenging season. Not only are you expected to manage multiple extra projects (house decorating, present giving, and family visiting), but also you’re supposed to feel happier than ever (as the expectation is it’s the most wonderful time of the year). Talk about difficult! This can lead to a lot of guilt when you don’t feel that…

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10 Ways to Have a Meaningful Thanksgiving

While Thanksgiving purports to be a day when family and friends gather to break bread and celebrate the bounty of the harvest and the miracle of life, today, a lot of things get in the way of having a meaningful gathering: technological distractions, the idea of what a family should be as set by movies and TV, the convenience of packaged food and increasingly polarized political views creating arguments. We all know that uncle who says bizarre inappropriate things in…

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